Notes on feeling better
Plain, practical writing about work stress, heartbreak, family pressure and the ordinary heavy days in between. No jargon, no lectures.
How to support a friend who is going through a rough patch (and when to hand over to a professional)
Your friend has gone quiet, or is suddenly always "fine". You want to help without making it worse. What to say, what to skip, and how to know when it is time for more than a friend.
Read →Uncategorized · 9 minMoney stress you cannot mention at home: EMIs, family expectations and the shame in between
Good CTC, three EMIs, money sent home every month, and a knot in your stomach on the 28th. Money stress you cannot mention at home is the loneliest kind. Here is why, and what actually helps.
Read →Talking it out · 9 minWhy it is easier to open up to a stranger than to the people who love you
You told an Ola driver about your breakup and your mother still thinks you are fine. It is easier to open up to a stranger for a reason, and it is not because you are broken.
Read →Family and marriage · 10 min“When are you getting married?” How to survive marriage pressure without blowing up your family
The question at every wedding, the biodata forwarded at 11 PM, the silence when you say "not yet." How to handle marriage pressure from parents without turning Sunday lunch into a war.
Read →Talking it out · 10 minWhat to say to a listener when you do not know where to start
You booked, the room opens in four minutes, and suddenly you have nothing to say. Here is what to say to a listener when you do not know where to start, and why you do not have to.
Read →Talking it out · 10 minDo I need therapy, or do I just need someone to talk to?
You have typed "do I need therapy" into Google at 11 pm and closed the tab. Here is the honest answer: sometimes yes, and often the first step is simpler than you think.
Read →Talking it out · 9 minNew city, no people: loneliness after moving to Bangalore for work
Good package, a PG in Marathahalli, three hundred colleagues, and nobody to call on a Sunday. Loneliness after moving to Bangalore is not a character flaw. It is a gap nobody warned you about.
Read →Heartbreak · 9 minGetting over a breakup when you cannot tell your family
Two years of a relationship your family never knew about, and now it is over. You still have to sit at dinner and pass the rice. Here is what to do with grief that has nowhere to go.
Read →Uncategorized · 9 minWork stress in Hyderabad IT: why saying it out loud helps more than another productivity hack
Good salary, decent manager, still can't sleep before appraisal week. Work stress in Hyderabad IT is not fixed by a better to-do app. It is fixed by finally saying the fear out loud.
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